Among close friends and family, there are many nonverbal cues we use with each other. We use different facial expressions and know exactly what the other person is saying. There are many ways other people interpret who a person is as well. They can do this by the way we dress, if we are friendly or not, how much we smile, the way we walk, and the way we stand, or cross our arms or legs.
I use facial expressions for many reasons. I use them when a strange person starts talking to me and I do not feel like talking or when a person I do not know starts telling me there life story a little bit too graphically. My facial expressions could be looking at a friend or family member as if, “why is this person telling me this?” Also my facial expressions could show when I am disgusted or, though it sounds mean, I know many people do it, show that I am not interested or bored.
I have been told that I am very animated with my facial expressions. When I am interested, I show it in my face along with my tone of voice. When I am excited or happy it is also plain to see on my face. When I am angry, people know it.
With my daughter or any of my nieces or nephews, they know how serious I am by looking at my facial expressions. Sometimes all they need is for me to point without an expression. They know a finger point means to go do what I asked them to do. Whether it was to clean the play room, shower, chores, homework, or go to your room.
After I have known someone for a while we usually exchange first impressions of each other. First impressions of me by people are usually among the lines of conceited, mean, and that I listen to rap. I do not know where they get conceited from, because I am an average person. People say I am mean before they actually have a conversation with me. I do not understand that because I am always either smiling or laughing. Once they get to know me, they realize I am goofy at times, but at most times, very laid back. I get the music preference part, because a lot of people I know listen to rap, so put me with others who listen to one type of music, it will be assumed that I listen to the same thing, though I do not prefer it. These are just a few more types of nonverbal cues that people get from me that I do not realize I put out there for them to read.
There are so many more nonverbal cues that I use. I cross my arms when I am listening and for someone who does not know me will probably think something different. Crossing the arms reminds me of someone being stubborn, but I am actually just really listening. Crossing the legs is also one nonverbal cue I use. When I go somewhere where there are people I do not know sitting next to me, I will cross my legs and face the opposite side without thinking.
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